There are three things that this year has really taught me to understand.
Motivation. Look, in college I've learned that you will go nowhere when you lack the initiative and motivation. The motivation to be on top of all the workload. The motivation to talk to someone who is much wiser and experienced than you are. The motivation to surpass your own expectations. The motivation to look into a career that you will enjoy and love and at the same time secure your future. The motivation to finally start something you've been planning to do for months. the motivation to try something new and challenging. And most importantly, the motivation to be happy and content.
Determinism. Being determined, to me, means seeing things through. Determinism works hand in hand with motivation and means so much more than getting sh*t done. Determinism means having the conviction that you are capable of succeeding. It means being able to face all of life's obstacles even while knowing that you may very well fail in doing so. It means being able to move on and learn from the mistakes you've made and accepting the fact that failure is part of life. Determinism definitely plays a big role in a happy and fulfilling life.
Humility. It's NOT always about YOU. It's NOT always about the things you've done. It's NOT about every single one of your successes. And it most definitely is NOT being looked up to because you're the smartest, prettiest, happiest, or wealthiest. It's more about self growth and how you've helped yourself by succeeding and exceeding your expectations for yourself. It feels good to be right and to be the best at something, but there is no need to shove it down everyone's throat. Sometimes, to be quite honest, it just comes off as insensitive and cocky. I am in no way saying to not be proud of your accomplishments, but there are humble ways in showing off that pride. You just have to know the difference.
I've also learned a few things about shame and what NOT to ever be shameful about, ever.
There is, without a doubt, no shame in:
...making a mistake. You should never ever feel ashamed for making a mistake. We are not perfect beings and we're all entitled to making mistakes every so often....taking that last slice of cake at a party. Look, you only get to enjoy the joys of life once. Eat that damn cake and don't feel guilty about it. If it makes you feel better, go out for a run the next day and sweat out those measly calories you gained.
...admitting you're wrong. Just own up to it. Don't make an ass out of yourself trying to prove yourself right when you know fully well your wrong.
...being blunt. Your friend looks fat in that dress? tell her! Then, give her some sane fashion advice. I'd much rather have a blunt and honest friend than someone who's fake.
...embracing who you are. Quirky, crazy, a little out there? So be it!
...saying no. NO. NO. NO. There's no shame in that
...being scared and vulnerable. Courage is a great trait and there's no denying that. BUT we are entitled to be weak and scared. We don't have to show the world that we are, but don't lie to yourself about it.
So there's that. I've definitely enjoyed this year, but I look forward to 2014 :)
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